Bagamaimana dengan nasib kanak-kanak yang tak mendapat hak mereka sebagai kanak-kanak...tak dapat cukup kasih sayang dan perhatian, tak cukup perlindungan,tak cukup makan pakai,dan tiada peluang bersekolah dengan sempurna dan terabai. Apa akan jadi pada kanak-kanak dalam kategori ini, will they be angels or devils?
Bagi kanak-kanak yang dipelihara di rumah-rumah anak-anak yatim, alhamdulillah mereka sangat bernasib baik kerana mendapat perlindungan di situ.Sekurang-kurangnya mereka mendapat perlindungan,walaupun kadangkalanya ala kadar sahaja.Tapi bagaimana dengan kanak-kanak yang lain,seperti kanak-kanak yang ibubapa mereka miskin dan anak ramai,hidup mereka bergitu terdesak. Walaupun mereka dapat bersekolah, tetapi segala kelengkapan dan duit belanja sekolah tidak mencukupi.
Begitu juga kanak-kanak yang bapa mereka jenis panas baran, kaki pukul isteri dan anak-anak, hidup mereka juga tertekan dan sentiasa dalam ketakutan -- menunggu-nunggu bila pula bapaya akan mengganas lagi. Apa akan jadi kepada kanak-kanak ini bila mereka dewasa kelak, will they be angels or devil.
Ramai juga kanak-kanak yang terpaksa bekerja keras walau pun mereka masih kecil.Menolong ibu mengasuh adik-adik dan memasak serta membasuh pakaian, terutama sekali kalau ibu jatuh sakit.Kanak-kanak lelaki menolong bapa buat kerja-kerja lain di luar. Mereka tiada peluang membesar seperti kanak-kanak lain, tak boleh bermain seperti kanak-kanak lain.
Kadang-kadang kekayaan dan kemajuan negara tidak dapat dimanfaatkan kepada semua lapisan rakyat.Masih ramai lagi yang hidup susah di kampung mahu pun di bandar.Apabila balik kampung, ada saja cerita yang didengar,budak itu tak dapat sekolah petang ( kelas fardu ain ) sebab takada duit nak beli uniform,atau nak bayar yuran. Budak ini pula,tak bawa bekal duit atau bekal makanan ke sekolah sebab adik beradik ramai.
Bayangkan seorang buruh kasar ada anak 4 atau 5 orang yang bersekolah, cukup tahun dapat list buku dari sekolah ,termasuk yuran itu ini,pakaian sekolah, baju pendidikan jasmani,kasut,beg sekolah dan sebagainya.Sedangkan duit gaji ngam-ngam sui untuk makan sahaja, itu pun setiap hujung bulan bawak buku 555 ke kedai runcit. Kalau di bandar boleh ke pakai buku 555 tu? Siapakah yang nak tolong mereka?
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Little angels or little devils?
We often wonder what happened to our cute, sweet, comel,manja and so on children, for when they have grown up they become different people. New born babies have this particular smell which is very sweet and pure and very lovable. they can melt even the hati keras macam batu people.
We never ceased to praise our children when they are small. Everything they do are cute and we will tell everybody how cute they are when they try to walk, to talk or to play.Parents will shower their children with love and care.And we can see they grow in front of our very own eyes,from infant to babies, from one year old and suddenly its time they go to school already.
What we never realised is after they are 4 or 5 years,they are not as cute as when they were below 3 years of age. Some grow up very naughty, demanding or become cengenge ( kuak jerik )ie kuat melalak. I remember when one of the nephews who liked to melalak everyday ( without fail ) until he goes to school ( primary ). He will cry non stop for hours at the top of his voice and the mother will ignore him totally. She said when you pujuk him he will become worst and the melalak time will become longer.If we left him be he knew when to stop, ie after 2 hours.But eventually he grew up to be a good looking boy, very curteous and very good at his studies.
The other one became so aggressive, when crying he will attack everybody near him. All of us makcik-makcik dah kena attack by him. One other, like to hit others of his age ( his siblings and cousins ) with whatever things he had in his hands. Nevertheless these two grew up fine young men.So, we cannot really judge small children,they might change when they grow up.No doubt some will carry their bad behaviour until forever if it is not nipped in the bud.
Some girls are vain when they are small. Clever to use their mothers lipsticks or perfumes or try on their mothers dress or shoes. Some 5 year old insisted to have high heels shoes.Her mother got so fed up she went and buy high heels size 7 for the daughter to wear.Of course the girl cried sampai tertidur. When she woke up she seemed to forget all her problems. But the degil ones will still remember what she wanted and continued crying until kena sergah atau kena pukul.
Sometimes small children can be little angels and some are little devils ------
depending on how they are brought up.
We never ceased to praise our children when they are small. Everything they do are cute and we will tell everybody how cute they are when they try to walk, to talk or to play.Parents will shower their children with love and care.And we can see they grow in front of our very own eyes,from infant to babies, from one year old and suddenly its time they go to school already.
What we never realised is after they are 4 or 5 years,they are not as cute as when they were below 3 years of age. Some grow up very naughty, demanding or become cengenge ( kuak jerik )ie kuat melalak. I remember when one of the nephews who liked to melalak everyday ( without fail ) until he goes to school ( primary ). He will cry non stop for hours at the top of his voice and the mother will ignore him totally. She said when you pujuk him he will become worst and the melalak time will become longer.If we left him be he knew when to stop, ie after 2 hours.But eventually he grew up to be a good looking boy, very curteous and very good at his studies.
The other one became so aggressive, when crying he will attack everybody near him. All of us makcik-makcik dah kena attack by him. One other, like to hit others of his age ( his siblings and cousins ) with whatever things he had in his hands. Nevertheless these two grew up fine young men.So, we cannot really judge small children,they might change when they grow up.No doubt some will carry their bad behaviour until forever if it is not nipped in the bud.
Some girls are vain when they are small. Clever to use their mothers lipsticks or perfumes or try on their mothers dress or shoes. Some 5 year old insisted to have high heels shoes.Her mother got so fed up she went and buy high heels size 7 for the daughter to wear.Of course the girl cried sampai tertidur. When she woke up she seemed to forget all her problems. But the degil ones will still remember what she wanted and continued crying until kena sergah atau kena pukul.
Sometimes small children can be little angels and some are little devils ------
depending on how they are brought up.
Perlukan Pakar Jiwa
Orang Malaysia amnya,bila sebut pakar jiwa, mereka terus mengaitkan dengan gila. Kalau kita beritau seseorang yang menghadapi tekanan mental yang melampau supaya berjumpa dengan pakar jiwa mereka terus kata ... aku tak gila! Dan sudah tentu selepas itu kita akan kehilangan seorang kawan.
Ramai di antara kita yang mengalami tekanan-tekanan seperti di tempat kerja, rumah tangga ,anak-anak, kedudukan kewangan yang goyah, penyakit fizikal yang dihidapi atau lain-lain dengan menghadapi masalah itu secara sendirian. Ada yang tak suka berkongsi cerita dengan teman rapat atau ahli keluarga.Akhirnya ia memakan diri sendiri dan kadang- kadang ia membawa kemurungan.
Sebaliknya jika seseorang cuba meluahkan perasaan kepada kawan-kawan atau ahli keluarga tetapi ia dipandang sepi atau kadang-kadang cerita mereka diwar-warkan pada orang lain, maka lain pula jadinya!
Saya dan seorang kawan pernah terasa bersalah ,bila seorang kenalan kami sentiasa menceritakan masalahnya yang tak berkesudahan dan tak dapat ditolong lagi. Kawan itu pun faham yang kami dah tak berapa larat nak dengar cerita dia, jadi dia kata dia bukannya nak penyelesaian pada masalahnya, cuma nak minta seseorang mendengar rintihan hatinya.
Can you imagine if someone has problem with her husband, her children, all her menantus ,even her grandchildren, how are you going to help her? Or if someone has a long illness and keep fretting about it, you can't say sabarlah, sabarlah, sedangkan sabar ada hadnya! Di sinilah pentingnya ada sahabat yang setia atau ahli keluarga yang memahami diri seseorang itu. This is when you need a psychiatrist!
Ramai di antara kita yang mengalami tekanan-tekanan seperti di tempat kerja, rumah tangga ,anak-anak, kedudukan kewangan yang goyah, penyakit fizikal yang dihidapi atau lain-lain dengan menghadapi masalah itu secara sendirian. Ada yang tak suka berkongsi cerita dengan teman rapat atau ahli keluarga.Akhirnya ia memakan diri sendiri dan kadang- kadang ia membawa kemurungan.
Sebaliknya jika seseorang cuba meluahkan perasaan kepada kawan-kawan atau ahli keluarga tetapi ia dipandang sepi atau kadang-kadang cerita mereka diwar-warkan pada orang lain, maka lain pula jadinya!
Saya dan seorang kawan pernah terasa bersalah ,bila seorang kenalan kami sentiasa menceritakan masalahnya yang tak berkesudahan dan tak dapat ditolong lagi. Kawan itu pun faham yang kami dah tak berapa larat nak dengar cerita dia, jadi dia kata dia bukannya nak penyelesaian pada masalahnya, cuma nak minta seseorang mendengar rintihan hatinya.
Can you imagine if someone has problem with her husband, her children, all her menantus ,even her grandchildren, how are you going to help her? Or if someone has a long illness and keep fretting about it, you can't say sabarlah, sabarlah, sedangkan sabar ada hadnya! Di sinilah pentingnya ada sahabat yang setia atau ahli keluarga yang memahami diri seseorang itu. This is when you need a psychiatrist!
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Aaaadakah aaandaaaaa..............?
I was shocked when a mother told me her son is not interested in girls. Another revealed her nephew told her the same thing. And they don't think there's anything wrong with them.I was so curiga, what does it mean? Another friend told me .... in other words they are telling them they are gays. Biar bebeno?
When I told my daughter about it ,she said may be it is betul mak,sekarang ni ramai je orang gay. Imagine if your son say the same thing? My daughter said kalau mak mestilah mak pengsan. I said yes, but after you wake from your pengsan what would you do?
Of course you akan menangis meraung-raung,feeling guilty ... where did I go wrong , punahlah anak aku! etc, etc ! pengsan balik bila sedar meraung lagi.Lepas tu? The most logical thing to do is confront him betul-betul,put some senses into his head and convert him to become straight again.If that don't work pujuk, kalau tak makan pujuk ? threaten him. Kalau tak makan saman jugak?
Go to the next step mohon doa pada Yang Maha Kuasa, sembahyang banyak-banyak,sembahyang hajat, sembahyang istikharah, sembahyang taubat dan lain-lain, doa,doa,doa......
Tak jadi juga,pergi jumpa tok guru, ustaz, tok alim, tok imam,tok bilal, tok khatib......minta air jampi, minta air penawar,minta buat ubat......Dengar kata ada orang pandai berubat di mana saja ,pergi dapatkan ubat untuk anak.Anak masa tu ikut saja kata maknya,maklumlah mak dah tak keruan,dia pun buat muka toye ( I'm not guilty!)
Last sekali buka Quran tunjuk surah yang ada cerita kaum Luth yang engkar, yang luar tabii,yang telah ditunggang terbalik negerinya sehingga kini menjadi laut Mati yang satu nyawa pun tak hidup di situ.Bawa dia pergi melawat kawasan itu ,tunjukkan bukti kalau melanggar larangan Allah akan ditimpa bala'.
Tapi hakikatnya buat apa pun tak ada kesannya kalau tuan yang ampunya badan itu tak mau berubah, walau kita beritau hukumnya haram, haram, haram ,no, no, no, la', la', la'abadan!
Persoalannya adakah orang persoarangan atau kumpulan, atau institusi yang boleh menolong mereka ini? Adakah tempat mereka nak pergi dapatkan councelling? dapatkan khidmat nasihat, dapat sedarkan mereka ini? apakah puncanya tabiat yang sebegini?
When I told my daughter about it ,she said may be it is betul mak,sekarang ni ramai je orang gay. Imagine if your son say the same thing? My daughter said kalau mak mestilah mak pengsan. I said yes, but after you wake from your pengsan what would you do?
Of course you akan menangis meraung-raung,feeling guilty ... where did I go wrong , punahlah anak aku! etc, etc ! pengsan balik bila sedar meraung lagi.Lepas tu? The most logical thing to do is confront him betul-betul,put some senses into his head and convert him to become straight again.If that don't work pujuk, kalau tak makan pujuk ? threaten him. Kalau tak makan saman jugak?
Go to the next step mohon doa pada Yang Maha Kuasa, sembahyang banyak-banyak,sembahyang hajat, sembahyang istikharah, sembahyang taubat dan lain-lain, doa,doa,doa......
Tak jadi juga,pergi jumpa tok guru, ustaz, tok alim, tok imam,tok bilal, tok khatib......minta air jampi, minta air penawar,minta buat ubat......Dengar kata ada orang pandai berubat di mana saja ,pergi dapatkan ubat untuk anak.Anak masa tu ikut saja kata maknya,maklumlah mak dah tak keruan,dia pun buat muka toye ( I'm not guilty!)
Last sekali buka Quran tunjuk surah yang ada cerita kaum Luth yang engkar, yang luar tabii,yang telah ditunggang terbalik negerinya sehingga kini menjadi laut Mati yang satu nyawa pun tak hidup di situ.Bawa dia pergi melawat kawasan itu ,tunjukkan bukti kalau melanggar larangan Allah akan ditimpa bala'.
Tapi hakikatnya buat apa pun tak ada kesannya kalau tuan yang ampunya badan itu tak mau berubah, walau kita beritau hukumnya haram, haram, haram ,no, no, no, la', la', la'abadan!
Persoalannya adakah orang persoarangan atau kumpulan, atau institusi yang boleh menolong mereka ini? Adakah tempat mereka nak pergi dapatkan councelling? dapatkan khidmat nasihat, dapat sedarkan mereka ini? apakah puncanya tabiat yang sebegini?
Monday, June 8, 2009
Kampung bandar,kampung kampung.
Setelah berpuluh tahun balik kampung ie Kedah - Pahang, Pahang - Kedah, Kelantan - Kedah, Kelantan - Pahang, KL - Kedah, KL -Pahang, pemandangan sepanjang jalan masih diingati. Bagi saya jalan yang paling menarik ialah antara jalan Kuantan ke KT melalui tepi laut.Pemandangan laut ,pasir memutih dan daun kelapa melambai-lambai sungguh menenangkan hati, jalan yang jauh terasa pendek.Begitu juga jalan lama balik ke Kedah,walaupun jauh tetapi pemandangan sepanjang jalan,terutama kawasan kampung negeri Perak begitu menarik hati.Jalan KL ke Rompin, Pahang melalui Seremban, Kuala Pilah , dihiasi dengan rumah-rumah Negeri Sembilan yang dikelilingi pokok-pokok rambutan berbuah merah dan kuning.diikuti jalan ke Muazam Shah yang dipenuhi pokok kelapa sawit ( kawasan Jengka )yang menghijau seolah-olah tiada penghujungnya menyejukkan mata memandang.Bila tiba di Rompin nampak pula laut.
Sepanjang-panjang jalan dapat dilihat kampung-kampung Melayu yang kebanyakan tidak berubah sejak berpuluh-puluh tahun dahulu. Adakalanya sesebuah kampung itu terdiri dari rumah-rumah kampung ada sekolah,ada kelinik kerajaan yang kecil dan kedai sebuah dua. Setelah sekian lama,ada terdapat perubahan pada rumah-rumah tersebut,iaitu sesetengah rumah berubah dari rumah kayu kecil menjadi rumah yang besar,cantik samada separuh batu separuh kayu atau rumah batu sepenuhnya, kereta penuh laman. Ada juga kampung yang terdiri dari rumah sahaja,tak nampak kemudahan-kemudahan yang lain.
Kadang-kadang saya terfikir, bagi mereka yang tinggal di situ alangkah susahnya mereka, seperti untuk mendapat barang-barang keperluan rumah,tiada klinik kerajaan atau swasta, balai polis ,bank,pasar dan lain-lain jabatan-jabatan kerajaan yang berkaitan dengan masyarakat spt pejabat Tanah,urusan buat kad pengenalan,Tabung Haji dan lain-lain.Mereka terpaksa keluar dari kampung dan pergi ke bandar terdekat yang kadang-kadang jauh juga bagi mereka yang tidak berkenderaan sendiri.Harapkan pengangkutan awam , berlengas juga ketiak menunggunya.Contoh, orang Leban Condong dan kampung-kampung lain yang berhampiran dengannya nak pergi ke Pekan jauh,nak ke Rompin juga jauh.
Bila difikir-fikirkan kampung-kampung yang semata-mata kampung ,apakah kenikmatan yang mereka dapat dari pembangunan negara. Yang jelas hanyalah peluang pendidikan dan kita dapat lihat buktinya sekolah-sekolah di setiap kampung nampak besar dan hebat.
Ramai dari anak-anak kampung berpeluang melanjutkan pelajaran tinggi di dalam dan luar negeri.Lain-lain kemajuan tidak nampak bagi orang yang seperti saya yang hanya lalu lalang di sepanjang jalan dari Pekan ke Rompin atau Muazam Shah ke Rompin setiap kali balik kampung.Anak-anak yang berjaya tinggal di bandar,ibubapa di kampung berada di persekitaran lama ( macam sebelum merdeka ).
Mungkin saya lebih bernasib baik, kampung saya telah dinaikkan taraf perbandaran ( hanya sedar bila kena bayar cukai tanah 5 kali ganda ).Saya dapat melihat kampung saya membangun, mulai tahun 60an ada Rompin Mining Co di Bukit Ibam, dengan itu ada bank beroperasi di Rompin ( Malayan Banking ), ada kelinik kerajaan, pejabat Daerah, pejabat tanah,pejabat kadi, jabatan mergastua, jabatan laut,jabatan perikanan, jabatan perhutanan ,balai polis dan pejabat pos.Ada rumah kedai dua deret ( kedai papan dua tingkat ) terdiri dari pasar, restoran Cina dan restoran Mamak, kedai kain,tailor, kedai emas ,kedai runcit,dan gerai -gerai menjual makan pagi dan kueh mueh untuk makan petang. Ada panggung wayang, ada bangsawan bergerak, joget ala BB Park ( pakai tiket ),sarkas -- kesemua ini datang silih berganti ( masa ini banyak ayam orang kampung kena curi ).Ada kedai yang sentiasa tertutup,tempat main pakau atau ceki atau majong.
Apabila masuk tahun 70an pembangunan bertambah, rumah kedai baru mula naik,stesen bas ,stesen teksi, pasar baru, mahkamah,dan lain-lain.Tahun 80an kian maju,90an bertambah baik tahun 2000 bertambah besar dan sekarang sudah naik taraf perbandaran (bandar kecil ). Alhamdulillah keadaan bandar bersih dan terjaga,urusan pejabat tanah efisyen ( melalui pengalaman setelah ibubapa meninggal dunia ) kelinik kerajaan sudah ada beberapa doktor yang tetap.( cuma tiada hospital,semua kes besar dihantar ke Kuantan--- alangkah siksanya kalau ada keluarga yang sakit tenat sudah tentu melibatkan kewangan yang banyak ).
Kadang kala ada rasa nak ucapkan terima kasih,tapi pada siapa? Majlis Perbandaran Rompin kerana kebersihan, kepada Pegawai Daerah kerana urusan tanah efisyen? atau wakil rakyat? Atau kerajaan? siapa itu kerajaan? Tunjuklah muka, saya ingin mengenalinya,nak ucapkan syabas, keep up with the good work!
Sepanjang-panjang jalan dapat dilihat kampung-kampung Melayu yang kebanyakan tidak berubah sejak berpuluh-puluh tahun dahulu. Adakalanya sesebuah kampung itu terdiri dari rumah-rumah kampung ada sekolah,ada kelinik kerajaan yang kecil dan kedai sebuah dua. Setelah sekian lama,ada terdapat perubahan pada rumah-rumah tersebut,iaitu sesetengah rumah berubah dari rumah kayu kecil menjadi rumah yang besar,cantik samada separuh batu separuh kayu atau rumah batu sepenuhnya, kereta penuh laman. Ada juga kampung yang terdiri dari rumah sahaja,tak nampak kemudahan-kemudahan yang lain.
Kadang-kadang saya terfikir, bagi mereka yang tinggal di situ alangkah susahnya mereka, seperti untuk mendapat barang-barang keperluan rumah,tiada klinik kerajaan atau swasta, balai polis ,bank,pasar dan lain-lain jabatan-jabatan kerajaan yang berkaitan dengan masyarakat spt pejabat Tanah,urusan buat kad pengenalan,Tabung Haji dan lain-lain.Mereka terpaksa keluar dari kampung dan pergi ke bandar terdekat yang kadang-kadang jauh juga bagi mereka yang tidak berkenderaan sendiri.Harapkan pengangkutan awam , berlengas juga ketiak menunggunya.Contoh, orang Leban Condong dan kampung-kampung lain yang berhampiran dengannya nak pergi ke Pekan jauh,nak ke Rompin juga jauh.
Bila difikir-fikirkan kampung-kampung yang semata-mata kampung ,apakah kenikmatan yang mereka dapat dari pembangunan negara. Yang jelas hanyalah peluang pendidikan dan kita dapat lihat buktinya sekolah-sekolah di setiap kampung nampak besar dan hebat.
Ramai dari anak-anak kampung berpeluang melanjutkan pelajaran tinggi di dalam dan luar negeri.Lain-lain kemajuan tidak nampak bagi orang yang seperti saya yang hanya lalu lalang di sepanjang jalan dari Pekan ke Rompin atau Muazam Shah ke Rompin setiap kali balik kampung.Anak-anak yang berjaya tinggal di bandar,ibubapa di kampung berada di persekitaran lama ( macam sebelum merdeka ).
Mungkin saya lebih bernasib baik, kampung saya telah dinaikkan taraf perbandaran ( hanya sedar bila kena bayar cukai tanah 5 kali ganda ).Saya dapat melihat kampung saya membangun, mulai tahun 60an ada Rompin Mining Co di Bukit Ibam, dengan itu ada bank beroperasi di Rompin ( Malayan Banking ), ada kelinik kerajaan, pejabat Daerah, pejabat tanah,pejabat kadi, jabatan mergastua, jabatan laut,jabatan perikanan, jabatan perhutanan ,balai polis dan pejabat pos.Ada rumah kedai dua deret ( kedai papan dua tingkat ) terdiri dari pasar, restoran Cina dan restoran Mamak, kedai kain,tailor, kedai emas ,kedai runcit,dan gerai -gerai menjual makan pagi dan kueh mueh untuk makan petang. Ada panggung wayang, ada bangsawan bergerak, joget ala BB Park ( pakai tiket ),sarkas -- kesemua ini datang silih berganti ( masa ini banyak ayam orang kampung kena curi ).Ada kedai yang sentiasa tertutup,tempat main pakau atau ceki atau majong.
Apabila masuk tahun 70an pembangunan bertambah, rumah kedai baru mula naik,stesen bas ,stesen teksi, pasar baru, mahkamah,dan lain-lain.Tahun 80an kian maju,90an bertambah baik tahun 2000 bertambah besar dan sekarang sudah naik taraf perbandaran (bandar kecil ). Alhamdulillah keadaan bandar bersih dan terjaga,urusan pejabat tanah efisyen ( melalui pengalaman setelah ibubapa meninggal dunia ) kelinik kerajaan sudah ada beberapa doktor yang tetap.( cuma tiada hospital,semua kes besar dihantar ke Kuantan--- alangkah siksanya kalau ada keluarga yang sakit tenat sudah tentu melibatkan kewangan yang banyak ).
Kadang kala ada rasa nak ucapkan terima kasih,tapi pada siapa? Majlis Perbandaran Rompin kerana kebersihan, kepada Pegawai Daerah kerana urusan tanah efisyen? atau wakil rakyat? Atau kerajaan? siapa itu kerajaan? Tunjuklah muka, saya ingin mengenalinya,nak ucapkan syabas, keep up with the good work!
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Queen Control
While some unlucky women married monsters , men are luckier, some of them married to queens --- Queen Control!
Those days I never know about QC , all I can remember was if a man is so quiet and nice and homely my mother will say he is a really nice man. He went to work on time,come home on time. During Maghrib prayer he'll be in the mosque until Isya'. Never know how to lepak at coffee shop , minum kopi kat rumah je!!
Such men will definitely get the title "Kena Queen Control ".
There are many ways to tame husbands ( even though some of them are not wild ! )I often heard in my kampung that certain makcik had given her husband makan nasi kangkang, that is why her husband looked so dungu,ikut kata!
If your husband hangs clothes and is seen by the neighbours , they will talk. Those days men don't do household chores,if they do they'll be labelled as kena QC.And his friends will start to mencucuk jarum by saying like... Engkau ni baik sangat ,aku tak pernah bagi muka kat bini aku!
Tak ke male chauvinist - Kena nasi kangkang padan muka!!
I've come across of ladies who really control their husbands, like they really monitor their husbands movement. Some are really clever to calculate the time their husbands leave the house,reach the office ( plus and minus the traffic jam )and they must be at home at certain times. Fail to do so he will be hanged with piano wires!
There's one lady who is really jealous of her husband.She will dictate her husband in everything. She will selongkar her husband's briefcase , check his wallet and pockets and even his handphone to find even she doesn't know what. Bewaaaree husbens,if you have girl friends make sure lock everything you have. Kalau tidaak mampuih hang!
Some wives are really suspicious of their husbands. So, before their husbands cheat on them , they might as well take precautions, like to maaandraaam their husbands or to psycho them. Some men are suffering from mental abuse.
There are cases husbands being struck with hot iron and got beaten by their wives. But these are rare cases as compared to wives who are being physically abused!
One guy used to complain , he is left with very little money every end of the month,ie after housing loan, car loan and other loans deductions from his pay. He has just enough for duit rokok . He said -- Nasib baik kuasa talaq atas tangan suami kalau tak dah 20 kali aku kena cerai!
So, kecek molek sikit denge bini demo....
Moh Balik Kampung!
Balik kampung ialah sesuatu yang menyeronokkan pulang ke tempat tumpahnya darah sebagaimana yang dikata, tempat jatuh lagi dikenang inikan pula tempat bermain.Hilang segala penat lelah, gundah gulana -- go back to unwind ---selain pergi bercuti ke dalam dan luar negeri, atau pergi ke resort atau spa --- balik ke kampung halaman adalah kesemuanya dalam satu !
Balik kampung selain menghilangkan rindu, ia juga merupakan satu tanggungjawab terhadap ibubapa dan ahli keluarga yang lain. Memastikan ibubapa cukup segala keperluan harian,kesihatan dan kerinduan mereka terhadap anak cucu. Juga mengenalkan anak-anak kepada kehidupan datuk nenek mereka.
Dengan tidak secara langsung mengajar mereka erti kasih sayang dan tanggungjawab terhadap keluarga.
Apabila ibubapa sudah tiada kita tetap balik kampung untuk menziarah ahli keluarga yang lain.Mungkin tak sekerap dahulu tapi sekurang-kurangnya setahun sekali.Balik ke rumah tempat kita dilahirkan dan dibesarkan menggamit seribu kenangan manis atau pahit.
Malangnya ada sesetengah rumah kampung ditinggalkan kosong tanpa penghuni setelah kematian kedua orang tua, lama-lama rumah menjadi usang dan akhirnya roboh begitu sahaja.
Bila tiba hari raya ( tak kira raya apa -Raya Puasa/Haji, Raya Kong Hee Fatt Choy, Depavali atau Krismas ) atau cuti umum atau cuti sekolah, penduduk kota mula bersiap sedia nak balik kampung, guna kenderaan sendiri atau pengangkutan awam. Jalan jadi penuh sesak, kota jadi sunyi sepi,senario kampung berubah menjadi meriah dengan keriuhan kanak-kanak bermain.
Cuti dan santai tak terkira!
Balik kampung selain menghilangkan rindu, ia juga merupakan satu tanggungjawab terhadap ibubapa dan ahli keluarga yang lain. Memastikan ibubapa cukup segala keperluan harian,kesihatan dan kerinduan mereka terhadap anak cucu. Juga mengenalkan anak-anak kepada kehidupan datuk nenek mereka.
Dengan tidak secara langsung mengajar mereka erti kasih sayang dan tanggungjawab terhadap keluarga.
Apabila ibubapa sudah tiada kita tetap balik kampung untuk menziarah ahli keluarga yang lain.Mungkin tak sekerap dahulu tapi sekurang-kurangnya setahun sekali.Balik ke rumah tempat kita dilahirkan dan dibesarkan menggamit seribu kenangan manis atau pahit.
Malangnya ada sesetengah rumah kampung ditinggalkan kosong tanpa penghuni setelah kematian kedua orang tua, lama-lama rumah menjadi usang dan akhirnya roboh begitu sahaja.
Bila tiba hari raya ( tak kira raya apa -Raya Puasa/Haji, Raya Kong Hee Fatt Choy, Depavali atau Krismas ) atau cuti umum atau cuti sekolah, penduduk kota mula bersiap sedia nak balik kampung, guna kenderaan sendiri atau pengangkutan awam. Jalan jadi penuh sesak, kota jadi sunyi sepi,senario kampung berubah menjadi meriah dengan keriuhan kanak-kanak bermain.
Cuti dan santai tak terkira!
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Reading and Understanding
I came to know about AlQuran Resam Uthmani in the early 80's , got one mushaf from The Iraqi Embassy.I didn't read alQuran since I left my secondary school.I was not familiar with Mushaf Rasm Uthmani thus I showed the AkQuran to my ustazah friend and asked her to teach me how to read.
She then explained to me about the Mushaf Uthmani which is different from Al Quran Imlaai I read sunce pre school.
So I started reading again when I'm 30 yrs old on my own ( of course baca lintang pukang macam muallaf ) .Much later I learned proper reading from Mak Cik Nab Guru Quran when I was in KB.At first it was very difficult to read AlQuran with proper tajwid and everytime I came back from mengaji I felt very exhausted and my throat became dry.
Dr Fatma always scolded me - Allah.. tak habis-habis belajar mengaji, dok loghat baca tak loghat nak tau makna!
How true! Bak kata alif besar batang nyor pun langgar. Most of us read like parrots.
What we learned the first round was only the basic.There are makhraj huruf to be corrected, to know when to wakaf and ibtida', the length of almadd, the idgham and ikhfa' to be pronounced the proper way..
There was this instance, one Malaysian read Surah Ar Rahman in Masjidil Haram aloud, without realising all the Arabs around him were sobbing.
When I learn Al Quran in UIA I realised my knowledge was minimal and my reading was below par. The advantages in learning in UIA is that all the lecturers are qualified in this field, they teach with proper syllabus, we have to sit for exams and get the certs.Later we can teach our children, grand children and friends the proper way of reading. And there are courses of the tafsir of Al Quran for us to know more about the Al Quran..
Monday, May 25, 2009
Married to Monsters.
Sometimes people don't realise they are maried to monsters.The usual victims are always ladies aka wives. The saddest thing is that they have to accept it,as if it is normal to be bullied by the monsters. Some do realise but apparently there's nothing they can do about it. Thus, they suffer in silence or they share the misery with their children.
These monsters appear in many forms. Some of them appear to be gentlemen,some of course look like pecah rumah kind of face some look so harmless and kind of pijak semut tak mati.Not many people know how abusive they are unless they are close to them, like if they are your relatives,friends or your next door neighbours.
One such example was a typical husband who take his wife's paycheck and bank in his own account. So he will give the wife daily pocket money to go to work. From the out side you see what a doting husband he is,send wife to the office, fetch her,carry her bag, appear to be giving her money,buy clothes for her ( of course some of the colours are not suitable for young ladies like kelabu tahi anjing or some other kepam colours, that is man's taste ) and so on that make all her colleages jealous of her.Some will utter words among them,like my husband never carry my heavy bag even if I'm 9 months pregnant!Or My husband never give me pocket money, I have to spend my own money if I want anything! But only close friend knows how she suffers.
Someone else ( who told everybody about her problems ) said her parents are poor and expect her to contribute to the family,but she said she had to keraskan hati and buat alasan to pacify her feeling, that her parents are okay, they don't need her money. She had no money in hands and too scared to ask from her husband!
The worst among the worst are those who hurt their wives. There is a nice and beautiful lady who has a really violent husband, beats her almost everyday. Her family advice her many times to report to the police but she refuses.Maybe she has no confidence the police can help her or she doesn't know how, or she is scared her husband will be more violent if he knows about it.She has a few brothers who will maime him if the sister gives the green light.But one thing she does right is sending her daughter ( still in primary school )to a fully boarded school in a nearby town ).As for her, the last time I went back to my kampung she had a broken arm ( she was 7 months pregnant) and insisted that she slipped in the bathroom. And of course the whole family ,even the whole kampung felt like nak rebus laki dia buat sup!
These monsters appear in many forms. Some of them appear to be gentlemen,some of course look like pecah rumah kind of face some look so harmless and kind of pijak semut tak mati.Not many people know how abusive they are unless they are close to them, like if they are your relatives,friends or your next door neighbours.
One such example was a typical husband who take his wife's paycheck and bank in his own account. So he will give the wife daily pocket money to go to work. From the out side you see what a doting husband he is,send wife to the office, fetch her,carry her bag, appear to be giving her money,buy clothes for her ( of course some of the colours are not suitable for young ladies like kelabu tahi anjing or some other kepam colours, that is man's taste ) and so on that make all her colleages jealous of her.Some will utter words among them,like my husband never carry my heavy bag even if I'm 9 months pregnant!Or My husband never give me pocket money, I have to spend my own money if I want anything! But only close friend knows how she suffers.
Someone else ( who told everybody about her problems ) said her parents are poor and expect her to contribute to the family,but she said she had to keraskan hati and buat alasan to pacify her feeling, that her parents are okay, they don't need her money. She had no money in hands and too scared to ask from her husband!
The worst among the worst are those who hurt their wives. There is a nice and beautiful lady who has a really violent husband, beats her almost everyday. Her family advice her many times to report to the police but she refuses.Maybe she has no confidence the police can help her or she doesn't know how, or she is scared her husband will be more violent if he knows about it.She has a few brothers who will maime him if the sister gives the green light.But one thing she does right is sending her daughter ( still in primary school )to a fully boarded school in a nearby town ).As for her, the last time I went back to my kampung she had a broken arm ( she was 7 months pregnant) and insisted that she slipped in the bathroom. And of course the whole family ,even the whole kampung felt like nak rebus laki dia buat sup!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Happy retirement!
Many people couldn't take the idea of staying at home and become a full time housewife.The idea of not working may shudder some people, they can't think of staying at home all day doing nothing,they'll be bored to death! For me ,I really enjoy my retirement. Every morning I wake up feeling happy knowing that I don't have to go to work on time, driving bumper to bumper and ( sometimes ) cursing the traffic jam.
The idea of opting started when the govt allow ladies to retire at the age of 40. But at forty I thought I was still young and I still could handle being a working woman + house work + looking after 4 kids.When I was 45 I felt I was still strong and I could still work. Came 50 I felt I couldn't go any further, I miss my home so much and I want to do other things, like doing nothing at home .At that time all my children were pursuing their studies and my husband was still working...and me alone at home......yea! Merdeka, merdeka, merdeka!
And who said doing nothing at home? If you want to do all the chores you could start from morning until the sun sets.There are 1 million and one things you can do ....like having morning coffee with a friend/friends ,read papers, buy all the magazines on the rack and read them from cover to cover, gardening -- like watering the plants twice a day, pruning ,raking leaves,watching tv etc,etc.
I have friends who are very scared of retiring. They feel as if the world is going to end after retirement. One close friend of mine told me she couldn't eat rice months before her husband's retirement.She was very angry with someone up there who didn't recommend her husband to extend his service ( her husband was one of the top notch govt officer ). She was lucky, not long after that her husband got a job as a consultant in the private sector.
Another top notch govt officer's wife was trying desperately to pull all the strings and cables just before her husband retired. She hoped those strings and cables could get her husband to extend service after 55. I'm sure she was mad because shortly after that the govt extended the retirement age to 56 and recently to 58 as compared to private sectors at 60! Eventually her husband too got a job in the private sector.
The idea of opting started when the govt allow ladies to retire at the age of 40. But at forty I thought I was still young and I still could handle being a working woman + house work + looking after 4 kids.When I was 45 I felt I was still strong and I could still work. Came 50 I felt I couldn't go any further, I miss my home so much and I want to do other things, like doing nothing at home .At that time all my children were pursuing their studies and my husband was still working...and me alone at home......yea! Merdeka, merdeka, merdeka!
And who said doing nothing at home? If you want to do all the chores you could start from morning until the sun sets.There are 1 million and one things you can do ....like having morning coffee with a friend/friends ,read papers, buy all the magazines on the rack and read them from cover to cover, gardening -- like watering the plants twice a day, pruning ,raking leaves,watching tv etc,etc.
I have friends who are very scared of retiring. They feel as if the world is going to end after retirement. One close friend of mine told me she couldn't eat rice months before her husband's retirement.She was very angry with someone up there who didn't recommend her husband to extend his service ( her husband was one of the top notch govt officer ). She was lucky, not long after that her husband got a job as a consultant in the private sector.
Another top notch govt officer's wife was trying desperately to pull all the strings and cables just before her husband retired. She hoped those strings and cables could get her husband to extend service after 55. I'm sure she was mad because shortly after that the govt extended the retirement age to 56 and recently to 58 as compared to private sectors at 60! Eventually her husband too got a job in the private sector.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
To punish or not to punish
It is not easy to become parents. The Malays has this proverb - lebih baik bela lembu sekandang dari menjaga anak seorang ( or dua orang or tiga orang or.., or...). That is because to look after cows is so easy. Morning let go of the cows, let them cari makan sendiri, merayau ikut suka hati,eat people's plant, cross the road and sometimes landed under the stemroll. Come evening the owner will look for them and bring them back and tie them under coconut trees or at tiang rumah.
But we can't do that to our children. We have to feed them, clothes them ,teach them what's right and what's wrong, teach them how to pray, to read and recite Quran,train them to fast during fasting month,send them to school,give them love and the list goes on until doomsday.Failing to do all that, we might create monsters or devils or..or....Sheesh! No wonder people would rather bela lembu sekandang.
To punish or not to punish---if your children meraung-raung in the supermarket because they want toys and you ignore them. Or if you take them to the choc dept they want all the chocs on the shelves and already stuff some of them in their pockets! Or you take them to eat fast food , they want everything on the menu. On top of that they will spill the drinks, quarrel with the siblings and start throwing chicken drumstick at each other.
You must wash their clothes, like three pairs each during school days ( school uni,baju main and pyjamas which will be soiled beyond recognition ).Tell them 10 times to wash their hands before eating or go take your bath or hang your towel properly or...or....
And sometimes they dare to teach you something when you scold them. Like don't play with cats , you'll get rashes. They will say its okay mama ,let me show you how to play with cat. Like this...stroke his head until it lentok then hold its front legs with one hand and its hind legs with the other hand, then you place the cat on your head stomach down and then shift it to your left cheek then to the right cheek and to your chin.And shove the cat to you so you can try . Would you?.
Or they teach you how to play with the security blanket.Hold the very corner of the kepam blanket rub it on your nose while smelling the 'sweetness' of the since they were born blanket.Would you? Punish or not to punish them.
But on the other hand we can tell them not to play the fool with mothers because mothers will recognize their children even though they are a mile away or by the glimpse of their ears!.
Many of us still think that our children are still small even though they are already 40 years old.Mothers still scold their children even though they are lawyers, or magistrates or pemain music!.
But we can't do that to our children. We have to feed them, clothes them ,teach them what's right and what's wrong, teach them how to pray, to read and recite Quran,train them to fast during fasting month,send them to school,give them love and the list goes on until doomsday.Failing to do all that, we might create monsters or devils or..or....Sheesh! No wonder people would rather bela lembu sekandang.
To punish or not to punish---if your children meraung-raung in the supermarket because they want toys and you ignore them. Or if you take them to the choc dept they want all the chocs on the shelves and already stuff some of them in their pockets! Or you take them to eat fast food , they want everything on the menu. On top of that they will spill the drinks, quarrel with the siblings and start throwing chicken drumstick at each other.
You must wash their clothes, like three pairs each during school days ( school uni,baju main and pyjamas which will be soiled beyond recognition ).Tell them 10 times to wash their hands before eating or go take your bath or hang your towel properly or...or....
And sometimes they dare to teach you something when you scold them. Like don't play with cats , you'll get rashes. They will say its okay mama ,let me show you how to play with cat. Like this...stroke his head until it lentok then hold its front legs with one hand and its hind legs with the other hand, then you place the cat on your head stomach down and then shift it to your left cheek then to the right cheek and to your chin.And shove the cat to you so you can try . Would you?.
Or they teach you how to play with the security blanket.Hold the very corner of the kepam blanket rub it on your nose while smelling the 'sweetness' of the since they were born blanket.Would you? Punish or not to punish them.
But on the other hand we can tell them not to play the fool with mothers because mothers will recognize their children even though they are a mile away or by the glimpse of their ears!.
Many of us still think that our children are still small even though they are already 40 years old.Mothers still scold their children even though they are lawyers, or magistrates or pemain music!.
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